Most people will agree that these two things go hand in hand. If you don't, realize that real quick.
I've said it many times, and I'll say it again: You have to love
yourself before you can truly love anyone else. You have to accept who
you are, accept your own strengths and weaknesses, accept your hopes and
dreams, accept your values, accept your wants and needs, accept your
personality, accept your appearance, accept your abilities, accept your
faults, and accept your fears.
Understanding who you are as a person is the first step in discovering
true love within yourself. Being honest with who you are as a person is
the second step. Embracing who you are as a person is the third.
When it comes to loving others, it's simple: repeat the above steps, but
for someone other than yourself. Find out who they are: What makes them
special? What makes them laugh? What makes them cry? What separates
them from the crowd? What makes them smile? What drives them? What do
they believe? Why do they believe that? Who do they love? Why do they
True love can't be defined. It simply comes from every possible reason,
or even no reason at all. When you truly love someone, or yourself,
you'll know. You'll know 100%, and hopefully, you won't ever look back.
And once that happens, you're that much closer to being happy.
Of course, no love would be possible without honesty. Like I said, you first have to be honest with yourself.
When I say being honest with yourself, I mean keeping true to your
beliefs, actions, words, lies, thoughts, feelings, loves, fears,
heartaches, passions, emotions, dreams, wants, needs, prayers, and
When I say keeping true to all those things, I mean don't be a
hypocrite. You only have one life, so what's the point of going through
it if you're just pretending? Pretending to be happy when you're not,
pretending to love when you don't, pretending to not have feelings when
you do, pretending to be dreaming when you aren't, etc.
If you feel it, show it. If you want it, take it. If you love her, tell
her. If you need it, get it. If you hope it, dream it. If you hear it,
consume it. If you like it, do it. If you think it, write it. If you
believe it, trust it. If you love him, hold him. If you miss it,
reminisce it. If you talk it, walk it. If you regret it, forget it. If
you hate it, protest it. If you catch it, run with it. If you fail it,
prevail it. If you drop it, regain it. If you love it, live it.
Be true. Be honest. Be faithful. Be loyal. Be loud. Be proud. Be humble. Be responsible. Be you.
If you don't love yourself, you'll never love anyone else. And what's a life without love?...Honestly?